In my case, it has always been the "it" topic during sleepovers during our adolescent years. It completely stopped since i-don't-know-when.
Maybe we grew tired talking about soulmates and preferred to focus in the present. Maybe my married friends have found their soulmate and therefore chose not to talk to our single friends, including me. Usually, the sentence will be like "you'll just know, if he is your soulmate."
I myself was very curious about this whole soulmate thing. Kept on figuring if past ex boyfriends, flings, crushes, or anyone who has walked in and out of my life, could be my soulmate. The whole concept of soulmate was how this person, really fits you and accepts all of your flaws inside out. I eventually gave up searching for one and followed what others will say "you'll just know it".
Then I stumbled into my friend's Path account. She posted this definition on soulmate, and intrigued me to flashbacks on my own definition of soulmate. I could not help to feel in such awe reading this short description below. It sends chills down my spine - in a good way, thinking, have I found mine?
The first 3 lines were the typical definition that I defined soulmate. But the fourth and fifth line was different. It got me thinking real hard. The line reads :
"No, actually they don't make you a better person. You do that by yourself because they inspire you".
The whole soulmate concept that I had before, where I endlessly figuring if previous lovers could actually be my soulmate, was wrong after all. They did shaped me into someone better - good and bad. But they don't inspire me. Not that I was not inspired by them at all, not that they didn't leave a significant mark in my life.
But they don't, let me tell you again, they don't inspire me, as an individual, to be a better person because I want to. It's merely because I want to be a better person for them.
Then, I, naively started thinking, with all the major changes that I made to myself - quit smoking, quit drinking alcohol, doing a healthy lifestyle, was in touch with Allah more doing my salat religiously and started to learn to cook, and doing better adult things by myself - this has nothing to do with anyone. I just want to do it. For myself.
How does this happen?
I was inspired by somebody. Somebody that I knew not too long ago. Somebody that make me feel whole as a person. It's like, if past lovers shaped and mould me to a better woman, this person gave the "finishing effect" and thus polished me the best version of myself.
Scary as it may seem, could he be my soulmate? Up to this day, thinking about him send chills. Am not very sure, but deep down, I do hope if he is. Well at the end of the day, like my friends said, "you'll know it if he's the one"